We're a little tired of the ongoing love of "spicy" romance books trying to hint at kink & BDSM. We completely accept that it's up to the author's comfort and experience level, but there's a lot of chatter about some books being really kinky, and they just aren't. Fetish After Dark really cares about your late-night reading, and here are some that kept us up at night. We also aren't going to include any of the Shades of Grey and similar books, which are written by people w

Several members of Fetish After Dark have worked professionally in the adult film industry. We've worked as builders, performers, riggers, and advised on presenting authentic kink for public consumption. We've also seen the results of what happens to folks who consume too much of a good thing. Obviously, there's some productions that are unethical, and those are deeply problematic not only for us as performers, but for society in general. While we obviously have deep feel

We understand that folks have a lot on their mind this season, and we're no different. With family, festivities, obligations, shopping, etc. kink and relationships can become secondary. Please remember that, due to all this stress, this is one of the most common times of the year for people to have relationship issues. This isn't just in kink, but in vanilla relationships as well. Also, remember that kink and intimacy can (and should) reduce stress. As such, we have some

Playspace - A private space or venue specifically designed or adapted for BDSM or specific fetish activities. A playspace may be a...

In several other journal entries, we talk about "being respectful" or "behave yourself" but without any real context for that. Yes, you...

As with any community, the best parties tend to be exclusive. With BDSM events, this is no different. However, where a lot of private...

Venues and event spaces tend to always be surprised when they host their first kink events for two reasons. The first is the general...

We've had this question asked of us a lot over the years, and it's more complicated than it seems. While we would love to give people a...

"​In BDSM, a brat is an individual who exhibits playful, mischievous, and intentionally disobedient behavior within a consensual power...

Dynamic - the official term for any established BDSM relationship were there is some form of power exchange. This can be dominant &...

Drop - an emotional and physical response to the endorphin and dopamine levels returning to normal after a scene. Known as "Sub Drop" or...

"In the kink community, a strawberry is someone who has few kinks or fetishes and my not consider themselves to be very kinky but also...

"The Kink and Polyamory Aware Professionals Directory (KAP) is a service offered by NCSF dedicated to providing the community with a...

"Bootblacking is the practice of caring for boots, shoes, and other leather apparel." - The Bootblack Wiki We couldn't say it much better...

"A person who participates in unconventional sexual practices, especially BDSM" - Dictionary.com This is the term used by a lot of our...

"A source of individual psychological discomfort; something that repels one." - Wiktionary This is a common slang word used within the...

"A sexual fixation on an activity or object" - The Dictionary of Scene-Friendly Terms Not a very good explanation of what it means but a...

We know how difficult is it to host a kinky party ( you can read about our recommendations here ) but there's also a big reason why we're...

Fetish After Dark is, at our core, an event planning and performance group, and we love BDSM events. They can be difficult to find,...

We're becoming a regularly respected reference site, who knew? BDSM stands for "Bondage Domination Sadomasochism" OR "Bondage Discipline...